My husband is always inconsiderate about my feelings. He puts his own needs before me all of the time and I am sick of living this way. It hurt so much when he turns on me and starts blaming me for his troubles. He doesn’t really care about me and when I cry he gets irate and tells me I am the cause of all that is wrong in our marriage. How can my husband been so cruel and hateful? He makes my cry more when he acts this way. I am afraid he hates me and deep inside doesn’t care about making things better. He seems to take some perverse joy in beating me down. Doesn’t he realize I am hurting inside and my tears are real? I despair being around him now. I feel trapped and fear I will always be stuck with a heartless husband. I am afraid I have married a monster. What a terrible mistake I made in marrying this man. What do you do Chris when your husband makes fun of you for crying and acts like he is disgusted? The man is heartless and I have had enough. He has shown me his true colors. Any guy who teases you when you feel you must cry is wicked.”
In addition to the question presented by the DOJ – "Whether Section 3 of DOMA violates the Fifth Amendment's guarantee of equal protection" for same sex partners – the court also asked the parties to brief and argue two other questions: whether the government's agreement with the Second Circuit's decision deprived the court of a "real dispute" and therefore of jurisdiction to hear the case, and whether BLAG had standing in its own right, ., the legal right to independently ask for the appeal to be heard in the event that the government was not a valid petitioner. Article III of the Constitution (the " Case or Controversy clause ") forbids parties that do not themselves have a real and personal ("particularized") complaint from filing a case or appeal in a federal court.